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Dealing with Rejection: The Nine Phases
THE LONELINESS PHASE: Feeling as if no one understands or cares.
SOLUTION: Surround yourself with people who do care, and who openly say so.
Remind yourself often that you are loved.
THE HEARTBREAK PHASE: Feeling like your heart is really breaking. You
may even feel pain in your chest, or want to throw up when you think of that
person or if you see your ex with someone else.
SOLUTION: You can go on. Rub your hand over your heart to soothe it. If you
are feeling really bad, snap your fingers to interrupt the thought, and fixate
on something that makes you happy. Do not drive yourself crazy with thoughts
that your ex is blissfully happy while you're miserable. Only your experience
counts, and only your efforts make you happy.
THE BLAME PHASE: Pointing the finger at yourself or your ex for what
each of you did wrong.
SOLUTION: Decide that neither of you is at fault but that both of you are
responsible for the breakup.
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