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Reading the Warning Signs
When you're smitten, it's easy to ignore signals that a relationship is going
south. And it's natural to want to make the one you love love you -- especially
if that person considers himself hard to catch.
Cathy's is a typical story.
"I've been seeing this guy who lately has been rather indifferent and mean.
I've also heard he's been seeing another woman. But I don't want to lose him.
how can I get him to see that I'm the right one for him?"
Imagine hitting your head against the wall. Does it hurt yet? If it doesn't,
would you hit it harder? When will it hurt so much that you'll be forced to stop
banging against the wall? Consider emotional pain like that physical pain: When
will your heart hurt so bad that you stop running after people who make you
unhappy? Imagine that every time your heart is broken, your heart muscle gets
chipped and torn. Be as protective with your emotions as you would be with your
body.
Finally, I'm frequently asked if bad sex is a good reason to end a
relationship. Yes and no. Bad sex is often just a smokescreen for other
problems: lack of communication, lack of attention, unresolved hurt or anger,
lack of trust, and more. Before condemning a relationship because of bad sex,
carefully explore the reasons behind it. Having no sex is a warning sign that
something is wrong, since it indicates a withdrawal from closeness, intimacy,
and sharing.
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